” No matter how much status you may have at work or in school, you don’t have more status than that jaw-dropping woman who’s dressed to kill and turning every head as she glides through the club. No one does. Not the rockstar. Not the billionaire.” A line from Rules of the game by Neil Strauss. A line that engraved in my heart.
There is a beautiful girl in our town. The only girl whose skin is so flawless. Whose lips look like red wine. When she walks, every single head turns to get a glance of her. Every woman hates her, because their husbands are staring at her. The type of woman, we used to call, “HD edition” or in pick up artist term, “HB 11”. But in India we don’t have those so called pick up artists. Few kids who have read that book and want to learn to get these girls or Naturals who always get them.
My wife hates me when I tell her that I want to be a pick up artist. I want to get every girl I meet or see. She always get upset because she thinks that she is not a good wife, a man can truly love and can’t think of anybody else. Its not correct. I know because she is a very nice person and I love her. But then I ask myself, “If I really love her then why I want those girls, Why I want to be a pickup artist? Sometimes my mind says, “We are men and we are born with it”. We undress every woman in our imagination to see how beautiful she looks from inside. We have mind sex with female friends, our neighbour’s daughter or even our friend’s sister”. Yes, many men or I should say only few men will really confess that they think about their friend’s sister. Even if they talk about, how wrong it is in reality. But the truth is we don’t have much control on our mind when it comes to sex.
But having sex is not only the reason. There is much bigger reason than this is “Status”. Yes, we want to get every other girl is because it increases a male reputation in the society. I know many will raise their eyebrows and start to collect their theories and argive about it. But for a minute, just for a minute, Remove your judging perspective and think about it. Aren’t the society really think this as a status symbol.
Men worship man who can get girls. They want the same. They want to befriend him, they want to be his student so that they can get the same results.
Even women are no different. They are attracted to the guy who is surround by girls. It seduce them. They want to be with that guy. They want to know why others girls are flattered about him. What’s so special about him.
One day, I asked my wife, “What if god give you a choice of choosing over two guys in a room. The first guy who is simple and innocent and second guy is simple but have lots of girl with him. Whom she wants? The answer was the second guy. She was right. Every one of us will choose him because he has the social proof of having something interesting. A man attracts more women when he is around with other women.
But these thoughts give rise to another question that always haunts me. When we all are guilty of it. We all think about other women then why don’t we accept it. Why we teach our kids that it is a bad thing. Why every one of us want to do this but judge others when someone else do it.
Then I realized, “We teach our kids the things we wanted to do but couldn’t. We want them to be a honest man because we couldn’t”…
They say, “Our experiences made us“. Good or Bad it all depend on your attitude. We are human and the best thing that Almighty gave us is the emotions. Love, Hate, Anger, Happiness, Frown, Lust, Sadness. Its all that makes us our life more meaningful and beautiful. Without these this Life will be just like a faded cloth. No colour, No happiness.
But in a fast and evolving society sometimes we just became so used to emotions that we start using them to attract attention or to show our pain or Anger, and later this becomes a problem A serious Problem!
I mean try to remember the person who is always sad, who talks like God is giving pain to only him, or try to remember a person on your social networking account who just post Sad statuses or depressive ones. People considered them “Drama Queen, Nautankis” whatever. But its just that they are being too emotional. They take every bad moment as a bad experience, they dont realize that there is Good in every bad experience. “You can either learn from it or run from it”.
Same thing applies for “Sachhe Lovers(True Lovers). I know many would say There are no such people but trust there are so many but the problem is they are also struck with the wrong persons who makes them not to trust the other person next time. Its a good thing they are being true but the problem is this that being so messed up in putting all yours in love always lead to Depression or can be problematic. I am not saying that you start unbelieving your partner. Love someone truely but not as much that you start to feel no difference in Right or wrong. I want to give a example of my true story, That when I was in 11th I was so deeply in love with the girl that I start stealing money from my own house just to give her gifts. Just to make her smile I used to cheat on my parents. Is that a good thing that to make someone smile you have to hurt someone else.
Another issue is Anger, “65 percent of the people today are short tempered” according to a study. and may be you would be too. But this emotion always get people in trouble. It have murdered lots of relations which can be saved by just saying sorry or acting in a calm way. But when Man feel anger he forgets everything and later he regret his actions. Today only my cousin’s friend was attacked by a knife by a neighbourhood guy whom he had a fight yesterday. I mean is that right that you try to kill someone over little fight? Is someone life is so cheap? Or your anger is so dominating that you can not stop yourself.
My motto is not to make you bore but I want you to understand that Feel the emotions but not much that they start to control you. You are the master of your mind not the other way round. Always remember as Robin sharma said, “A mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible Master”. Feel Love, Lust, Passion, Pain, Sadness every emotion but not too much So stop being so emotional and start to live your life for a Purpose.
My girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married. My
parents helped us in every way, my friends encouraged me , and my girlfriend ? She was a dream ! There was only one thing bothering me ,very much indeed , and that one thing was
her younger sister . My prospective sister -in- law was twenty years of age ,
wore tight mini skirts and low cut blouses. She would regularly bend down when near me and I got many a
pleasant view of her underwear. It had to be deliberate . She never did it
when she was near anyone else. One day little sister called and asked me to
come over to check the wedding invitations. She was alone when I
M arrived . She whispered to me that soon I was to be married , and she had feelings and desires for me that
she couldn ‘t overcome and didn’t really want to overcome.
She told me that she wanted to make love to me just once before I got married and committed my life to her
sister . I was in total shock and
couldn ‘t say a word . She said, “I’ m going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want to go ahead with it just come up and get me . “I was stunned .
I was frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. When she reached
the top she pulled down her panties and threw them down the stairs at me . I stood there for a moment, then turned and went straight to the front
door . I opened the door and stepped out of the house. I walked straight
towards my car. My future father-in-law was standing outside. With tears in his eyes he hugged me and said,”We are very happy that you have
passed our little test . We couldn’t ask for a better man for our daughter.Welcome to the family.”
The moral of this story is : Always keep your condoms in your car….